Marriage, love, and Jesus!

Why is it so hard to really love the person you are married too? (If you argue with this question, by saying it isn't hard, I say "cough" liar.. Lets get real!) Why is it is so hard to really forgive the people you love the most? God has brought to light something I have been asking myself lately? Shouldn't it be easier to love the person you are married to then any other person? Shouldn't it be easier to forgive people you love then any other person?  It should, but its not.. Why does this seem like such a simple thing, but yet it is so hard?

I got a whole new view of how easy it should be, and yet we will continue to fail.

I was sitting in my car a few days ago staring at the clear blue sky with a few random clouds, and down the road where the earth met the sky I came to realize that everything on the earth is going to fail at some point. We are all just here for our moments, living in strife trying to be the best we can be, and above where the earth meets the sky, somewhere out there is a heaven where there is no strife, and frustration. Out there is my God who loves me for me, who will never fail me, who will always love me and forgive me easily. In that moment I didn't want to be here on this earth anymore, I wanted to be up there in the arms of Jesus.

If you noticed everything in heaven is duplicated on earth. God created creation, and here He uses us to create us. We are the bride, and Jesus is the groom, and here on earth there is a bride and groom. So if we are duplicating what there is in heaven, then in marriage to our spouse on earth we should be duplicating what is in our marriage to Christ. I love that God shows me the supernatural of His ways because it is beautiful but when I look at the ways on earth, it is ugly because it is natural.

This is why Paul says it is better to not marry if you have no problem with lust.

⁸ So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. ⁹ But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.

Because when you become married, you are now going to have to aim for the heavenly standard of marriage.. Do you know how hard it is to be married to a person who isn't Jesus? I'm sure you all know because most of us are married.. We are going to continue to fail our spouses, and fail Jesus.. 
 
³² I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. ³³ But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. ³⁴ His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. ³⁵ I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.

Being married twice is hard! It is much harder to be married to one of Gods creation's, then it is to be married to Jesus. Your interests are divided and you have to be devoted to God but also to your spouse, and your responsibilities of being a spouse. I think that is why so many marriages fail, because it is hard. That is why so many people are not devoted to God, because relationships take work. They pretty much take every ounce of energy you have.


 ⁶But ‘God made them male and female’from the beginning of creation. ⁷ ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, ⁸ and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, ⁹ let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

In my marriage to Christ, I need to remain in Him, and He will remain in me. We are united. It is supposed to look the same for your spouse. In my marriage to my spouse, I should remain in him, and he should remain in me. We should be united.

⁷ But if you remain in me and my words remain in you, you may ask for anything you want, and it will be granted! ⁸ When you produce much fruit, you are my true disciples. This brings great glory to my Father.

Remaining and being the best disciple, spouse, and friend you can be, brings great glory to God. There are a ton of scriptures in the bible on how to be the best spouse you can be, and also how you can be the best bride of Christ too. I am just writing this all because I have been hit with a hard brick of the severity of what it takes in marriage, not only on earth but also in my relationship with Jesus..  And with my brothers and sisters in Christ. If I could sum up the bible in two words, it would be Love and Relationships. It is only truly available through Jesus.. Failing in relationships and love will happen, but Jesus is there saying remain! Remain in it all!


 “I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love. ¹⁰ When you obey my commandments, you remain in my love, just as I obey my Father’s commandments and remain in his love. ¹¹ I have told you these things so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your joy will overflow! ¹² This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you.